Tuesday, 14 October 2014

B(ex)st Friends

If you asked me what my kryptonite was (although, I'm not entirely sure why you would) I wouldn't even have to think twice, it's my ex-partners. It's not that I still love them, although I suppose that I do in a way, it's the much more simple fact that, of my four best friends, three are people who I've been romantically involved with in the past. I thought, just in case any of you out there are thinking ex-partners might make good best friends, I'd put a list together of my top 5 pros and top 5 cons to consider. You're welcome.

Ex Boyfriend Pictures

1: If you're considering an ex as a best friend, chances are you were best friends before. Preserving a friendship is always worth the hard work and, post having a romantic relationship, you will always have a better understanding of each other on every level possible.
2: They always know what you need. They've dealt with you ugly crying over the little mermaid, they know exactly when to stroke your hair or buy your ice cream. 
3: You're more open with each other. Hey, if someone's seen you naked then you basically have no qualms discussing your period with them in great detail.
4: It's out of your system and, usually, there's no weird sexual tension like a standard male/female (or female/female, male/male) relationship can have. You've been there, done that, ruined the t-shirt, and it's not on your list of holiday destinations to visit again anytime soon.
5: You can err slightly more on the clingy side. Even if you text them three times in an hour, there will always be a time during your romantic relationship that you were more clingy. By comparison you are now the coolest cucumber to ever grace the Earth.

1: Remember that time you watched that film in the cinema and you missed whole scenes because you were kissing each other? If you ever watch the film together again those will now be really horrendous, awkward silences. Anything that consciously reminds you of a date or dating scenario? Yeah, wow, those silences are painfully awkward sometimes, get used to pretending your trainers are really, really interesting; you'll be looking at them a fair bit in the first few weeks.
2: You pretty much constantly accidentally flirt, only you will be really consciously aware of it, and cutting it out completely will make you appear like a lady in waiting from Downton, clipped and short. It takes a good while to achieve and successfully maintain an easygoing balance.
3: Every new partner will assume they're your bit on the side. Every. Single. One. So will everybody else in fact, no matter how much you protest it.
4: Speaking of new partners, if you even talk to a new person - never mind kiss them - you will be made to feel guilty (even when they don't care), and expect 20 questions if you happen to bring it up.
5: Drunk kisses. I don't need to say anything more.

Basically, maintaining a friendship with an ex is just as complicated as maintaining any other relationship, only more often than not you find yourself physically restraining yourself during slanging matches to not bring up the fact that "ACTUALLY, YOU DUMPED ME." I, however, love all three of mine, even if I do want to smash their heads together some days.

Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Sammy xo.

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