Wednesday, 5 November 2014

A Letter To My Future Children

I've been toying with the idea of writing a letter to my younger self, an idea increasingly popular amongst bloggers at the minute, for a little while now. After seeing this post by India over at Touchscreens and Beautyqueens about the idea that giving advice to your younger self might change the self that you are right now, I decided she was right and so instead I decided to write a letter to my future children (they'll probably listen to me better than a younger version of myself ever would!)

Dear Future Children,

I don't really know where to start, except I am acutely aware of my obsession with superheroes and bad American TV, so first off, apologies if your names are a little unconventional. I'm writing to give you a little advice, although if you're anything like me then you're probably too strong-willed and hard-headed to take it (that will serve you well in the future, though.)

First up, people lie. Bit of a grim place to start isn't it, but it's true. I didn't learn that until my late teens, and it was one of the things I struggled with. I struggled to realise that boys and girls will all lie, but that doesn't mean that they love you any less. People tell white lies to keep face, and save dignity, and they tell whopping great black lies for reasons that you might never understand. One lie doesn't undo all the delicate stitching that wove your friendship or relationship into place, just like the lies that you tell, no matter how big or small, won't define you for the rest of your life.

Second port of call broken hearts are amongst the worst pain you will have to endure. I wish I could say that you won't have to suffer them, that you won't ever experience it; but you will. Your heart will break when your favorite characters die in books, when your friends leave for different universities, when a boy or girl who promised you forever cruelly snatches the remainder of that promised time away. Time is a healer, so is holing up under your duvet watching all the films that people talk about that you never got round to watching. You will get over it in time, you will learn to live as a new, stronger version of yourself, you will thank the person that broke your heart - one day.

The third most important thing I can teach you is trust your gut. Have faith in your instincts, know that you are the best judge of character that you have in your life, and if something doesn't feel right? Be strong enough to walk away - no matter what anybody else has to say about it. Always trust in your first gut instinct, no matter whether it's about which way to walk home, which people to walk away from in a club or whether a Snickers or a Kinder Bueno is the right choice to make when you only have enough money for one.

I could teach you a million other life lessons, I'm sure; but the point is to learn for yourself. Let the grazed knees and broken hearts set up a clearer path for the future. Don't be worried about starting things for fear of how they will end, never be afraid of yourself - whether that be sexuality, knowledge, strength - own it, let it define you, there are worse things that could. Most of all; know that I will always love you, that I will always be accepting and proud; just like my Mum and Dad taught me to be. Also, be proud of your music/film/tv taste, because it will be amazing with me as a parent.

Your Future Mum xx

So what advice would you give to your future children?

Sammy xo.

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