Tuesday, 5 January 2016

It's Okay To Be In Love At 22

Whilst flicking through puppy videos and pictures of cats on Facebook this week - I came across a really interesting article (unusual on Facebook, I know). It's from a while ago now, but it hit some sort of nerve within me, and reading the comments I felt compelled to say something about the article in question; I'm Only 22. I Don't Want Someone Else To Be My Whole World. This time last year, I might have agreed, but as I sat reading it next to a sleeping girl I hope will be my wife to be by the time that she turns 22, it made me almost angry.

I get the theme of the post, I do - girls don't want to be somebody's better half, they want to be their own person. They want to adventure, witness, experience, travel before they settle down with somebody - and not just girls, men too; but here's the kicker - I do too. I want to adventure, witness, experience, travel - I want to learn new things and become the best whole of my side; and that's why Katy is so perfect for me. My best adventures have been with her at my side, lost in foreign cities and laughing at stupidly named product in pharmacies we wouldn't be able to find out way back to, buying vaguely offensive notebooks in London, laughing about how shitty the area we chose to stay in turned out to be.

Like Beth, I have dreams and plans that only involve myself - and Katy has been there to help me achieve them every step of the way; never pressuring, never making it about her, just pointing out spelling and grammar on application forms and being a sounding board for my best (and worst ideas). Like Beth, I want to be sure that if Katy wasn't here, I'd be able to do it alone and truthfully? Katy having so much faith in me has ensured that for me; I could do it on my own, I am an entire, whole person - but I'm also so grateful to have Katy right next to me, so that I don't have to do it on my own.

I haven't lived enough yet, I haven't seen enough yet; but Katy isn't the end of my life, she's the beginning of a new chapter. I will live more, travel more, see more - I will made ridiculous decisions and poor mistakes and she will be right there next to me laughing along as she makes them too. I didn't give my life, make myself less to fall in love with her; I expanded everything I knew in order for her to exist beside me, to show me a whole side of love I didn't know existed, to show me a life that I never knew my direction in before.

So it's fine to not want somebody else to be your whole world at 22, but I'm here to say it's okay if somebody is; because I could do this alone, but I don't have to - and every day has been brighter, every adventure happier, every decision easier with Katy by my side; and I wouldn't give it up for the world.

Sammy xo.

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