Wednesday, 6 November 2019

The World's Most Convoluted Love Story

When I was a teenager there was this guy with a bright coloured fringe that used to do the opposite paper round to mine, and without fail on a Wednesday when I was putting leaflets into 200 papers I’d see him. Every single week he would jump off the wall of the house next to me onto my path and every single week it would shit me up and he’d laugh and wave and I’d probably scowl and wave back because that’s the type of person that I am. He was on my radar as a friend of friends but after we stopped doing our paper rounds, I mostly forgot he existed until we were in our twenties and he matched with me on tinder. Then I got a girlfriend. Then I broke up with said girlfriend and we matched on tinder again. Then I got back with said girlfriend. Then said girlfriend and I broke up, again. We matched on tinder again, three separate times because he kept deleting the app (or unmatching me because I wasn’t funny enough, jury’s still out).

Then I started drinking in a new pub and I’d see him there and we’d share a tinder message exchange of ‘Is that you by the bar?’ ‘I can’t see you who are you with.’ ‘I’m in the back booth.’ There’d be an awkward wave and we’d move on with our lives - though I did ask him to five separate pub quizzes in one message once and he never replied, I’m not bitter though. Then one night he was in the right place at the entirely wrong time and came over to chat to me whilst I sat with two people I really didn’t want to be there with, then I saw him the next night and introduced him to my friends, then it quickly became me going to that certain pub because I knew he’d be there but we weren’t brave enough to actually hang out. Then I started asking him to plans outside that pub, and in 3 short weeks I had myself a best friend. We spent 10 months growing together, there was new jobs and pushing each other to start the things we wanted to do but never got around to, there were a lot of those pub quizzes he never replied to my messages about, there was some casual kissing, there was a lot of meeting each other’s friends.

I’m going to be honest, I really didn’t think 2019 was going to be my year. I threw myself into it by working a lot, by not doing much other than going to the pub, by crying even more than I do now. He was there every step of the way, we spent every single night walking round our (very small) town centre and chatting, or drinking in the pub, or going on late night tesco trips with my best friend. Slowly but surely, we got closer and to literally nobody’s surprise except my own, he told me he wanted this to go somewhere, and five months later it is somewhere, it’s so good. I take the piss out of him every single day but he is honestly one of the best things to come into my life. He’s pushed me to be a better person, he makes sure I get out of bed to at least walk to the shop even when it feels like it’s the last thing I want to do, he appreciates me for everything that I am, he steals my clothes and eats my snacks, but I’ll let him off with those ones. 

It’s been a lot of time to get here (ask my group chat, they’ll tell you just how long) and it’s a place I never thought I’d be lucky enough to be. I’m so grateful to be with someone who makes sure I make time to do things I want to, not just things I need to, I’m so grateful to have someone who pushes me every day to be the person I want to be, I’m so grateful he finishes the last bits of my food when I inevitably don’t finish a meal. It might have taken nearly a year (or 9, depending on how you look at it) but we got here, finally. It's felt like the world's most convoluted love story, and I'm sure my friends will back us up on how long it seemed to take, but I'm truly grateful for every single step. Plus he's a boss photographer, and he pushed me to make sure I actually did start my blog again (and he's put up with every meltdown about it since).

How did you meet your partner? I'm really nosy and want the stories!

Sammy xo.

1 comment:

  1. I like a love story and I'm glad you are happy! I met Nathan on plenty of fish and wanted a part time boyfriend to spoil me. Here we are 6 years later...